Being a mother is an honor. Even though motherhood came sooner than I expected, the impact of being a mother has forever changed my life. However, if I were to die today and no longer be around for my children, there are things I feel strongly that I would want my children to remember and know about life. As life unfolds we tend to forget and become distracted. Here are the principles I would want to remind my children of and stay connected to.
You are a Spiritual Being in Physical World
Honor your intuition
Have integrity
You are here to enjoy and appreciate this life
You are a genius
You deserve the best that life has to offer
The opposite of fear is love inspired by Marianne Williamson
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Give with Love and Gratitude
Feel good no matter what
Never put your happiness in something outside of yourself
See the good in everything and learn from your life lessons
Show compassion and the world will be compassionate towards you
This world is a reflection- give away what you want and it will come back tenfold
Don’t Listen to Outside Influences
Marketing : commercials, ads, etc. that distract you from your inner voice
Advice from the good opinions of others
Think your own thoughts
Be the solution not the problem
You are Your Own Leader & Lead With Your Heart
Let your passion guide you
Have a Vision
Stay committed and focused on what you want
Share your perspective publicly
You will advance further in this life when you focus on being kind rather than right
Do it Anyway inspired by Mother Teresa’s Anyway Poem
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
Employ and Invest in Yourself
Be in charge of your life and career.
Let it be the thing you most love and are most passionate about sharing and would do for free just because you love it.
Never choose anything you clock in and out from. Do what is built into you to do that never turns off after 40 hours.
“The biggest mistake people make in life is not trying to make a living at doing what they most enjoy.” – Malcolm Forbes
Take Care of Your Body, it is Your Transmitter to the Divine
Rest
Get sun
Breathe fresh clean air
Exercise and sweat
Stay properly hydrated and drink pure water from natural springs and produce
Nourish your body with plenty of dark leafy greens and fresh fruit
Be your own preventative health doctor, do not expect someone else to care more for your body than you do.
Surround Yourself with People Who Inspire You to Be More
You are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with. You are the average in attitude, emotional stability, income, weight/health, education, etc…
Only spend time with those who encourage you and support you.
Give others the freedom to have their own thoughts and do as they please.
Be loving and supportive of others. It’s more important to be kind than right!
Build a tribe of close friends that you enjoy through your life.
Contribute and share your gifts with the world. Improve the quality of others lives.
Leave this planet better than when you arrived.
Choose a Sustainable Living Environment
Locate your home in a place that sustains life without the need of human intervention. The more you do this the less you will need from outside resources. This will encourage freedom for it will provide fresh natural resources such as clean air, plenty of water or rain, sunshine, temperate climate. Honor this place and leave it in better condition than when you came.
Your Home is Your Private Sanctuary
Be Prepared
Grow your own food for quality and purity, for love and variety, for freshness and nutrient density, for preparedness and health, for freedom and a healthy planet
Prepare your home for Natural Disasters with medical aid, water and food supply and alternative shelter and protection from heat and chill
Know how to treat emergency situations: first aid, CPR, etc..
Live Lightly and Simply
Let greed be for the fools
Experience True Wealth
Money is not true wealth, but love, time, health, pleasure, wisdom, and peace are!
Alex and Mehgan this is written for and dedicated to you. I am so thankful to be your mother and may your life be filled with true wealth. If you are a mother, please take the time to make sure your children know what is important, leave them your legacy now. Do not wait until it is too late. Who knows, maybe you’ll start blogging and leave that as your legacy for your children. Pay your wisdom forward.
May 3, 2010
>True words of wisdom.
I've never gone wrong investing in myself.
Another lesson that served me well is be the friend you want to have.
May 3, 2010
>True words of wisdom.
I've never gone wrong investing in myself.
Another lesson that served me well is be the friend you want to have.
May 3, 2010
>What an awesome thing to give to your children 🙂
May 3, 2010
>What an awesome thing to give to your children 🙂
May 7, 2010
>The absent are always in the wrong.......................................................
May 7, 2010
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May 8, 2010
>Very nice Lori…
Amazing how parenthood will make you grow and appreciate life.
We are truly blessed !
Thx for sharing this.. ur very wise.
May 8, 2010
>Very nice Lori…
Amazing how parenthood will make you grow and appreciate life.
We are truly blessed !
Thx for sharing this.. ur very wise.
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June 4, 2010
>Lori, I'm sure you don't need to be told that this is touching and beautiful. How lucky your kids are.
I feel strongly about these lessons also, and have written 'Jacqueline's code' for my daughter, which I encourage her to read and to modify and add to as she grows (it's really my code for now, but I want her to ingest it and know in her heart what's important in life). Many of the principles are similar, but I don't think I've said anything as beautifully and simply as you have here.
I think it's time to get Jacqueline's code out again and share it with her, along with this blog post! Perhaps I shall post my own dedication – thanks for the inspiration, as always Lori. See? You INSPIRED me to ACT! Fabulous. xxoo
June 4, 2010
>Lori, I'm sure you don't need to be told that this is touching and beautiful. How lucky your kids are.
I feel strongly about these lessons also, and have written 'Jacqueline's code' for my daughter, which I encourage her to read and to modify and add to as she grows (it's really my code for now, but I want her to ingest it and know in her heart what's important in life). Many of the principles are similar, but I don't think I've said anything as beautifully and simply as you have here.
I think it's time to get Jacqueline's code out again and share it with her, along with this blog post! Perhaps I shall post my own dedication – thanks for the inspiration, as always Lori. See? You INSPIRED me to ACT! Fabulous. xxoo
June 5, 2010
>you two make a lovely couple............................................................
June 5, 2010
>you two make a lovely couple............................................................
June 8, 2010
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June 8, 2010
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June 11, 2010
>I resonate with you so much, Lori!
You are so freaking incredible – brilliant, beautiful, articulate, with such an amazing message… I can't tell you enough how much I appreciate you. 🙂
June 11, 2010
>I resonate with you so much, Lori!
You are so freaking incredible – brilliant, beautiful, articulate, with such an amazing message… I can't tell you enough how much I appreciate you. 🙂
July 11, 2010
>Quality is better than quantity.............................................................
July 11, 2010
>Quality is better than quantity.............................................................
July 29, 2010
>Absolutely beautiful. I just found you through give it to me raw and am loving your passion for what your doing.
July 29, 2010
>Absolutely beautiful. I just found you through give it to me raw and am loving your passion for what your doing.
October 19, 2012
Two days ago, my precious 15 year-old only son, Samuel P. Robinson, scrawled a hastily prepared handwritten note in his bedroom and then quietly retreated into the cool autumn night at the bottom of my ex-wife’s large backyard. I have replayed in my mind hundreds and hundreds of times what might have been going through his tortured mind when he finally raised the barrel of the handgun that he pressed against the very center of his forehead before squeezing off a single round that instantly killed all of my dreams and aspirations for my youngest child. I remember my sense of terror upon receiving the panicked phone call from my ex-wife who woke me on Wednesday morning to inform me that Sam’s sister had found a suicide note in his bedroom from which he was missing. I threw on my clothes while praying that his note was just a cry for help that he had not yet acted upon. I had just opened my garage door to race over to Carolyn’s house to begin my panicked search for my son when a second call came in, just ten minutes later, to confirm that Samuel’s lifeless body had been found at the base of the backyard. I let out a piercing wail that seemed to suck all of the air out of my lungs as I screamed, “Noooo!!! Noooo!!! Nooo!!! Dear God, nooo, please nooo!” I don’t know what possessed me to drive over 100 miles per hour on the freeway to reach my ex-wife’s home for what I knew would be facing me. I only knew that I had to reach my son’s side as soon as I possibly could. I screeched on my brakes in Carolyn’s driveway and ran as fast as I could to the white silhouette laying at the foot of the yard. The dear neighbor who found my son’s body stopped me and attempted to deter me from approaching my Sam’s body. I insisted, “I have to…I just have to!” I prevailed upon him and he allowed me to proceed a few additional paces to the sight that instantaneously dropped me to my knees in the most abject horror I have ever witnessed. I gently placed the palm of my hand against my son’s cheek that was cold to the touch. Instinctively, I reached for his motionless forearm that was similarly as cold as ice. And then I saw it. The revolver lay between his two barefoot feet as if it fell from his head to his feet the instant his body collapsed. The awful reality hit me like a ton of bricks. My precious Sam was dead. I will not attempt to describe for you the horrific sight that will be forever seared into my memory until the day that I die. Suffice it to say that it was a sight that no parent should ever have to see. I remember crying in prayer to God. I only remember asking God to forgive my sins and my son’s sins. I don’t remember the other supplications I made to the Lord at that excruciating moment that are now known only to Him. But I didn’t know what else to do while kneeling next to my son’s lifeless body except to pray. And that’s all I know to do now. In the nightmare that has followed from which there is no awakening, scores of people have asked me if there is anything they can do. My response is still the same. Just pray for me. Pray for my son’s overwhelmed soul. Pray for his deeply traumatized sisters. And pray for Sam’s grieving mother. Coincidentally, just a day or two before sweet Sam took his own life, I had posted a quote from John F. Kennedy and a thoughtful essay from an especially gifted blogger I follow named Lori Painter entitled “10 Wise Life Lessons for My Children”. Those postings [below] seem especially relevant now. Oddly enough, my 83 year-old father who rarely, if ever, responds to postings on Facebook, happened to respond to the J.F.K. quote. Dad replied with a quote of his own from a poem with which I was not familiar from an American poet of the 19th century named John Greenleaf Whittier. After googling the poem line from Dad, I read the poem in its entirety just a day or two before my son’s suicide. There I found the rest of the lines for which this poem is apparently known in addressing the subject of regret. Says Whittier, “God pity them both! and pity us all, Who vainly the dreams of youth recall; For of all sad words of tongue or pen, The saddest are these: ‘IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN!’ Ah, well! for us some sweet hope lies Deeply buried from human eyes; And, in the hereafter, angels may Roll the stone from its grave away.” Please join me as we plaintively and quietly contemplate “what might have been” during Samuel’s funeral at my home church at Crossings Community Church, at 14600 N. Portland Avenue at 10:00 a.m. on Saturday, October 20, 2012, with graveside internment immediately following to which the public is invited. Sam, my sweet child, I miss you and I love you more than words can possibly convey.
November 5, 2012
Oh my Randall. My heart is with you and your family now. Words cannot express the feelings that surge through me as I begin to place myself in your shoes and can not even imagine what you must be experiencing. If you need any support I am here for you.
I wish I could say that I am not familiar with this experience, as a dear friend of mine did. Her youngest son chose to leave his body almost 3 years ago. I would love to say that she feels whole and complete, but I do not know if she ever will. Nor do I know if I were to ever be in that space.
Please send me a private message if you would like someone to talk to.
January 28, 2015
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