Isn’t it funny how we would view the world and behave if we knew our days were limited? Fact is, we tend to take life for granted. Nobody knows when our day is up. If we did, would we do things differently? I use this scenario of “if this was my last day” for me to regain perspective on my life. This is how I want to live everyday. I want to stay here rather than get swept into the small stuff that doesn’t enrich my life. At the end of my life. I want to know that I conducted my life in this fashion.
1. Love and savor the people in my life like my kids, family and friends 2. Make amends with anyone I needed 3. Watch more sunrises and sunsets 4. Feel thankful for the opportunity to be alive 5. Inspire free living and follow the beat of my own drum 6. Live lightly 7. Eat well 8. Exercise 9. Keep learning and sharing my journey 10. Live in peace 11. Be more loving, patient and compassionate, be more tolerant, and forgiving 12. Forgive and love myself 13. Have more fun 14. Laugh until I have cramps in my side 15. Wake up early 16. Smile until my cheeks cramp 17. Leave my voice to share with my kids 18. Surround myself with my favorite things & create a private retreat 19. Hang out at an outdoor spa 20. Love my dog 21. Make someone else’s day a little easier or better, brighten someone else’s day 22. Enjoy the sun, spend more time outdoors and have picnics 23. Make more videos & blogs 24. Get off the TV and PC and experience living 25. Read to my kids and cuddle at night 26. Do more things that my kids enjoy doing like hide and seek in the dark 27. Do something different each day 28. Hug more 29. Celebrate my uniqueness 30. Make it a point to find the joy in my life and carry a carefree attitude
This was the very first song that came on in the car when I went to take my kids to gymnastics. How freaking appropriate is this? Love who you are. Stop trying to please others or find approval in others. This song is contagious! No wonder it’s number one on the charts right now. Awesome message!
So watch out…..cuz I am living my life for ME….like it or not, it isn’t for you. If you don’t like what I am doing… work on your own life. We are who we are. Embrace it, make the best of yourself, and rock out!
Be thankful for where you are and what you’ve got!
(Rihanna): You’re gonna be a shining star, fancy clothes, fancy car-ars. And then you’ll see, you’re gonna go far. Cause everyone knows, who you are-are. So live your life, ay ay ay. Instead of chasing that paper. Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. Ain’t got no time for no haters. Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. No telling where it’ll take you. Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. Cause I’m a paper chaser. Just living my life (ay), my life (oh), my life (ay), my life (oh) Just living my life (ay), my life (oh), my life (ay), my life (oh)
(T.I.): Nevermind what haters say, ignore em ’til they fade away. Amazing they ungreatful after all the game I gave away. Safe to say I paid the way, for you cats to get paid today. You’d still be wasting days away, now had I never saved the day. Consider them my protégé, homage I think they should pay. Instead of being gracious, they violate in a major way. I never been a hater still I love them in a crazy way. Some say they sold yah and no they couldn’t even work on Labor day. It aint that they black or white, their hands in areas the shades of grey. I’m West side anyway, even if I left today and stayed away. Some move away to make a way not move away cause they afraid. I brought back to the hood and all you ever did was take away. I pray for patience but they make me want to melt their face away. Like I once made them spray, now I could make em put the k’s away. Been thuggin’ all my life, can’t say I don’t deserve to take a break. your would rather see me catch a case and watch my future fade away.
(Rihanna): You’re gonna be a shining star, fancy clothes, fancy car-ars. And then you’ll see, you’re gonna go far. Cause everyone knows, who you are-are. So live your life, ay ay ay. Instead of chasing that paper. Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. Ain’t got no time for no haters Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. No telling where it’ll take you. Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. Cause I’m a paper chaser. Just living my life.
(T.I.): I’m the opposite of moderate, immaculately polished with the spirit of a hustler and the swagger of a college kid. Allergic to the counterfeit, impartial to the politics. Articulate but still I’ll grab a nigga by the collar quick. Whoever having problems with their record sales just holla ‘tip. If that don’t work and all else fails, then turn around and follow ‘tip. I got love for the game but ay I’m not in love with all of it. Could do without the fame and rappers nowadays are comically. The hootin’ and the hollerin’, back and forth with the arguing. Where you from, who you know, what you make and what kind of car you in. Seems as though you lost sight of whats important when depositing them checks into your bank account and you up out of poverty. Your values is in disarray, prioritizing horribly. Unhappy with the riches cause you piss poor morally. Ignoring all prior advice and fore warning. And we mighty full of ourselves all of a sudden, aren’t we?
(Rihanna): You’re gonna be a shining star, fancy clothes, fancy car-ars. And then you’ll see, you’re gonna go far. Cause everyone knows, who you are-are. So live your life, ay ay ay. Instead of chasing that paper. Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. Ain’t got no time for no haters Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. No telling where it’ll take you. Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. Cause I’m a paper chaser. Just living my life (ay), my life (oh), my life (ay), my life (oh) Just living my life (ay), my life (oh), my life (ay), my life (oh)
Got everybody watchin what I do Come walk in my shoes And see the way I’m livin if you really want to Got my mind on my money And I’m not goin nowhere So keep on gettin your paper And keep on climbing Look in the mirror and keep on shining Till the game ends, till the clock stops We gon’ post up on the top spot Livin the life, the life In a brand new city got my whole team with me The life, my life I do what I wanna do I’m livin my life, my life I will never lose, I’m livin my life, my life And I’m not stopping
It is scientifically IMPOSSIBLE to be depressed and grateful at the same time! Think about that every time you are feeling blue. Shift your focus on what you have. It’s another way of taking an inventory of your life and discovering what you do have. This is perfect to do once a life detox has taken place. The garbage is gone, now let’s see the good stuff .
Thanksgiving is coming around the corner and rather than stuffing my face with food, I’m filling up my soul with thanks. Don’t be fooled into thinking this is the only time I reflect on the things I am thankful for. I keep a daily gratitude journal. I write in it almost every night before I fall asleep. It makes for an easy transition into sleep and beautiful dreams.
I think of the things that would affect me if they disappeared from my life tomorrow. Here are my top 10 ranked
Devastated 1. My kids 2. Their father… if I had a romantic partner he’d be here too! 3. My family 4. My friends 5. My pets 6. My clients 7. My health & well being (I suppose this should be number one, since it affects how I am able to relate and contribute to those listed above.)
Big Time Bummers 8. My home 9. My car 10. My journals, home videos, and photographs
OK, OK….I know I said ten, but I had to throw this in there too.
Conveniences 11. The Internet, my computer & cell phone (Funny, because these are just means to stay connected to the relationships mentioned above. )
These are the things I really need to nurture and really remember to appreciate. I know that all those things I mentioned above are not permanent. I will eventually lose them all. EVERYTHING! It makes me think….am I really enjoying them? Am I really making the most of them. Do they know how much I care?
On the other hand, I feel less of a need for other materialistic belongings. I mean really, if I have all the above listed things in my life, the extra “stuff” just might be a distraction or clutter in my life. Truth is, we only use about 20% of what we own. Back to purging! Living light inspires the soul.
Ten More Things I Am Thankful For 1. The experience of Motherhood & being a woman 2. Living during these times & technology 3. My knowledge and experiences 4. My health, beauty, energy, able body 5. My dreams and direction 6. A connection to a higher power & sense of self 7. Living in safety, where the sun shines and the weather is warm 8. My time 9. Being well received by others 10. Unlimited Potential
What about being grateful for the hardships and life challenges?
5 Challenges that I overcame & made me who I am today. 1. Poverty & Abuse 2. Shoplifting 3. Exotic dancing 4. Failed relationships 5. Single motherhood
5 Current Challenges I am experiencing today & being thankful for the opportunity to grow & learn from them. 1. Financial burdens… I want to live free from financial obligations 2. Weight gain…. I want to feel secure in my own skin and celebrate physical health 3. Self esteem….I want to feel confident in who I am and what I am capable of 4. Discipline & Focus…I want to stay on task so I can experience the things in life that really matter most to me. 5. Being single… I want to grow and share life with a life partner.